It’s so easy to get behind. Behind on work, house chores, self-care. Behind on fitness or food goals. Behind on the communication work we promised our loved ones. I see you, beloveds — scrambling to keep up with all you said you’d do today, this week, this month.
But there’s one thing you must never fall behind on: your self-talk.
It’s the easiest thing to let slip… and somehow, it’s also the quickest to turn against us. When the voice in your head runs on autopilot, why does it always seem to skew critical?
I’m not good enough.
I’m not smart enough.
I’m not special.
I’m an impostor.
Beloveds — if you start one new habit today, let it be this: speak kindly to yourself.
Look in the mirror if you can. Say it aloud if you can. And if you can’t, whisper it to yourself anyway.
Repeat after me:
I am worthy.
I am loved.
I am smart.
My feelings are valid.
I can do this.
Then say the thing you most need to hear:
I am well.
It wasn’t my fault.
I did the best I could.
I forgive you.
Yes, it may feel silly at first. Some days you’ll forget, and some days you’ll barely be able to say the words — maybe you won’t even mean them. But your brain can’t tell the difference between truth and repetition. It will believe the thought you feed it most often.
So if you’d like to believe you are capable, or well, or deeply loved… say it. And say it with love.
It can help to imagine you’re speaking to a younger version of yourself — your inner child — or to your own child, if you have one. Now replace that precious little one with yourself, and keep speaking those affirmations until you feel the truth in them.
Even if you don’t, don’t stop. Keep going. Catch the negative thoughts in the act, and reframe them when you can.
I am here with you, beloveds. And if you need a tangible reminder of your strength, magnetism, and sovereignty — my talismans are here for you too. Little wearable prompts to return to love, especially for yourself.
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