This one is for my fellow women. It may not sound like the gentle advice you’re used to from your priestess, but I promise it’s given with deep love and fierce devotion.
Lately, the temperature of society has cooled toward men.
Predatory behavior. Toxic masculinity. Misogyny.
These phrases fly around the internet like ping pong balls at a beer pong tournament. They’re real problems, and I’m glad we’re shining a light on them—because that’s how things change.
But today, I came across a content creator listing the micro-adjustments women make in daily life to feel safer. Locking car doors while pumping gas. Not wearing headphones. Holding keys “just so.” She asked women to add theirs in the comments.
And then? She got mad.
Not at a man.
At another woman.
A woman who offered a gentle counterpoint—that maybe, just maybe, we’re choosing fear. That safety starts inside us, not just outside.
The creator raged against her.
And I get it. Fear is loud. But so is wisdom.
And I’ve been around long enough to have some.
So come, beloveds. Look through my lens for just a few moments.
Most Men Are Kind
In my experience, most men are kind and gentle.
Being afraid of all men because some are predators?
It’s not efficient. It’s not helpful. And it won’t give you your power back.
If you want to feel less threatened, more powerful, and more in control of your life—if you want to stop feeling like prey—I offer you this list. Things you can begin doing today:
1. Take a Self-Defense Course
The techniques I learned in hand-to-hand combat training? I never used them once.
But they changed me.
The confidence they gave me altered how I move through the world.
I worry less about the space I take up around men.
I feel stronger, because I am stronger.
2. Keep Your Chin Up. Make Eye Contact.
Fear leaves a scent.
Downcast eyes, bunched shoulders, skittish movements—they signal vulnerability.
But you are not prey.
Hold your shoulders back.
Lift your chin.
Make eye contact.
If someone follows you, don’t run. Turn.
Look them in the eye and ask them loudly, “Are you following me?” or "What are you looking at?" Let slip some of that feminine rage. ;)
Stand like you're the strongest one in the herd.
Even if it’s not real yet—fake bravery until you make bravery.
You might only have to do this once or twice before you realize:
It was your fear talking all along.
3. Stop Doomscrolling
Sisters, be mindful of what you feed your nervous system.
If your feed is full of fear, it will grow in you like weeds.
If your algorithm only shows you monsters, you’ll start to believe they’re everywhere.
Yes, we must speak truth. But fear is not the only truth.
You are the wielder of literal magic.
Your words shape your reality.
So shape a better one. Let your strength narrate the world you want, not just the world you fear.
4. Raise Strong Daughters
Raise your daughters with intention.
Teach them to use their voices by using yours.
Hurl adversity at them and let them field it.
Make them work.
Give them love and protection, yes.
But also teach them to hit, kick, scratch, and bite—then teach them not to do it unless they must.
And above all, teach them grace.
Toward everyone. Regardless of gender.
5. See the Humanity in Men
Men are humans—strong and fearful, brave and insecure.
Fallible, yes. But capable.
Capable of emotional intelligence.
Capable of humility.
Capable of change.
Toxic masculinity is real, and harmful. But the men who suffer from it are salvageable.
Raise good men. Even if they’re already grown.
They are buckling under the weight of your gaze…
But they’re trying to rise.
Change Your Mind, Change Everything
If you thought of the men around you as sons, as brothers—fragile, fumbling, worthy of love—how would that shift your behavior? Would you offer them your grace?
If you’d smile at a strange woman… could you smile at a strange man?
If you’d help a struggling sister… could you help a hurting brother?
Ask yourself—who does your fear serve?
Does it serve you?
Are you changing hearts and minds for the better with fear… or just burning yourself in the fire of it?
Does your fear comfort you… or does it eat at you?
Has it made you more loving?
Or more rigid?
Has it built a safer world for you?
Or simply confirmed your worst expectations?
The World Is Already Your Oyster
If you can change your relationship with fear, you can change anything.
You are not fragile. You are fire-tested.
My wish for you is this:
✨ That you require less protecting from the things you fear… and more manifesting of the things you desire. ✨
You are not alone, beloved.
You are powerful, adored, and whole.
I see you.
And I love you.
—Your Priestess
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